I was looking after my nephew [4 years] dog as it was ill and was much happier on the farm. This morning as I was leaving she just got up and ran under my car. I drove over her and killed her on impact. I feel so bad, how am I going to explain it to him?
Part of life is learning about death. Better to learn w/ a dog than a person that he loves. Just tell the truth.
I agree. That is so hard for both of you. Sit him down and tell him the truth. I think that's the only option you have. Good luck.
The truth will hurt but its best and small kids are receptive and recover amazingly quickly...I was lied to for years by my whole family about what happened to my first Chow Chow...when I eventually found out years later its was bad all over again and I hated everyone for lying to me in the first place...in fact just typing it still makes me feel mad and hurt...32 years later
Oh how very sad! Yes, agreed here too...just tell the truth as gently as you can. Good luck. And like you Kirsty, I was lied to for years about my first dog that just "ran away"...
Children are remarkably resilient. They can understand anything providing it is properly explained. Just tell your nephew what happened. I am concerned about how you are feeling. To lose a dog is hard, but to kill it by accident is mortifying. It nearly happened to Mickie on Sunday. The little pissant is so fast, hubby opened the bottom gate and he shot behind hubby and disappeared into the wild part of the garden without hubby seeing him. I called him as he had been gone a long time, and he reappeared at the back door so I picked him up and took him down to frantic husband to show him that The Poodle Had Returned. However, a worried motorist passing by came hurrying into the garden to tell us that a small black dog was terrified in the road. Yes, it was Mickie. He could have been squashed. I could have lost him in an instant. Dogs only really understand what it dangerous when they are much older, around 5-6. Up until that time, you shriek your head off in warning, panic if you can't see them and treat them like kamikaze pilots by locking them indoors or in a car when you are moving cars around the forecourt. Maybe it didn't want you to leave it behind. Dogs and cars don't mix unless the dog is inside with you in a cool enviroment. Dogs inside hot cars suffer terribly when the owners go shopping. Your dog knew he/she was loved and cared for.
Oh...this must be the hardest moment how to explain the plain truth especially to a child. You have to choose the right time, the right place, and the best explanation to minimize his pain and sorrows. Wishing you the best!
Thanks it was hard but it went well a lot of tears but already smiling again. Thanks for all the advice, the truth was as always the best.
Get him a puppy which HE chooses, actually they choose each other. Hopefully adopted from a pound or rescue centre, those dogs are so loyal and so grateful when someone takes them home. From the day the dog arrives, take every single precaution and assume that the puppy wants to kill himself/herself. Get the nuts and womb removed, all the usual injections and go seriously in to puppy training so that the dog learns what is good and what is not. Nothing is more important to a child than a dog. Teach the child how to communicate with the dog, to look after it, to clean and feed it, to learn the signs of illness, to learn about what the the dog thinks and feels, what it needs to be happy, what it likes to play with, how to praise, how to play. I am going through this with Puppy Mickie and he is such a joy.
Since the original dog had been sent to live with Della and was not being cared for at home then its probably not on the cards or a good idea to go and get the child a new dog...if the mother of the child was not capable of loking after the original dog then adding a new dog wont make it any easier
That's a point, maybe it was not possible to keep the dog at home, but it was also ill and transferred to the farm. Perhaps later on if circumstances change.
Hi yes a new dog is not on the cards. He still has another little dog [Jack Russel] that stays with him which is healthy. But I am worried about this one as it seems to realize that her friend with which she grew up is no longer with us. Over the weekend she came to visit on the farm and she seemed so sad.