Miscellaneous Forum

I want a Mass and Rosary. I plane pine wood box. No makeup. And I will come back and slap the person I went straight to heaven. I know I need purgatory.

NO flowers: positively, definitely and unequivically NO flowers

What about being stuffed and made into a helicopter? guardian.co.uk/world/video/2...

burned down, scattered in mountains and kept in my beloved minds as a jolly fellow :-)

It's taken care of. I've prepaid for cremation service, and told the kids they are to have a party in my honor.

I have requested an open bar and loud rock and roll.

As a lot of my fellow members already know,my husband is in the dying stages of cancer and he had all his family,my family,our children and grandchildren and friends travel to visit and have quality time with him..this has been his wake and everyone has been able to say goodbye to him while he is alive,we had a lot of fun,laughter and tears over the last 6 months. He is having a private cremation with only myself present and then I will organise a link up 'celebration of his life' where everyone who loves him will raise a glass or can of beer in his honour..no matter where they live in the world..(no religeous ceremony/funeral/flowers etc)or physical gathering. He wants his ashes to travel around with me for awhile and then scattered in the Daintree Rainforest and the Great Barrier Reef QLD.He believes in 'mother nature'and has a deep spiritual connection to the earth. Only a few people have been upset about no funeral but Rex is doing what he wants to do and I will make sure he has this wish fullfilled.(It is in his will) I would like to do the same as him because having all the family and friends getting together while I am alive is just fantastic,the only difference is that I will have some kind of religeous service when I die. Dorrise xx

I want a traditional Requiem Mass followed by burial and a party afterwards. As I am carried out of the church I want Edith Piaf to sing "Non,je ne regrette rien". Then at the party I want Dean Martin's "That's Amore".

I want a Catholic funeral and burial in a Catholic cemetary. I don't want to be cremated unless it's necessary (like, if my body was maimed/dismembered), and even then, I want the ashes to be put in a miniature coffin and buried in a church graveyard. As much as I would love to have my ashes scattered in Seville, my religious beliefs are more important to me, including having a church funeral/burial. I have these songs and musical pieces in mind: youtube.com/watch?v=hsBt9yZD... (Schubert's Ave Maria) youtube.com/watch?v=dzaL3FQc... (the Salve Rociera - devotional song to Our Lady of El Rocio, who has been special to me even before my trip to Seville) youtube.com/watch?v=haseluAw... (the allegretto from Beethoven's 7th symphony) youtube.com/watch?v=rrVDATvU... (Air on a G string by Bach - and no, G string in this context has nothing to do with underwear!) youtube.com/watch?v=2SxH0mOQ... (Sleep Tight by Sarah Brightman)

I remember Pedro....a pitcher.....such is life....so short....why are we here to take up room on the earth....best I be recycled through cremation, scatter throughout the world....it really doesn't matter because when you are dead, your're dead......Live life to the fullest, WHO WILL SPREAD MY ASHES? May be I will have it sent to VT and they can send it out to the VT meetings to be spread around the world. No body travels like VT members. cheers tommy x

Do not care. they can bury me, burn me, feed me to the lions or throw me in the ocean. I will be dead so i won't are or object to anything. I have told my family that if anything happens to me then they should do what they feel comfotable with and not worry about what i might prefer cause i do not care at that point. I am more interested in life before death and i try my best to get the max out of that.

Well said Claus, and so true.

As you can see life can be cruel. Death a blessing because, when you die...you have nothing to worry about, no stress, no funeral arrangements to be made. Just a deep sleep and maybe heaven....who knows!? The burden is lifted...As they say, funerals is for the living, not the dead. Years ago in the 70's, I read and like MAD magazines...Alfred E. Newman did a spoof of Why Worry? and compare the living and the dead...The .Dead worry about nothing was the point and the living had the burden of living. You see, and if you believe...God can be cruel also and make us suffer by giving us life, hope and despair. LOL who know? ashes to ashes, dust to dust. cheers tommy x

I don't want stupendous amounts of money and space "wasted" on a coffin, a grave and a grave stone (jeez, the cost is extortionate!) Just burn me and "recycle" me... throw me in the ocean or perhaps a Buddhist sky burial would be quite cool... chopped up and fed to wild animals up in the Tibetan mountains. I know it's important for many people to have a certain place to go and remember their loved ones, but I believe the memory lives in your heart, not in a grave stone.

First of all, they can have whatever parts of me are still in vaguely working order for transplant. I won't need them any more. I would marginally prefer cremation to burial purely for reasons of not taking up as much space. I absolutely and definitely do not want a religious service of any sort. I attended a secular service for a dear friend some years ago and found it terribly moving. I have already chosen my music but that is not really for here. After whatever ceremony (if that is the right word) I want all my muso mates to gather in a pub somewhere, at my expense, and have the Mother and Father of all trad. music sessions, that is what we did after the service mentioned above and it was outstanding. So many musician friends turned up for the ceremony, we had to actually start two different sessions in different rooms of the pub, there were just too many of us. The deceased's daughter and son in law were a) extremely generous hosts and b) genuinely overwhelmed by the turnout and thanked us all profusely. It was exactly what she would have wanted, I have no doubt and a great send off that is still fondly remembered some years later. That is the way to go.

Yes, Fergy - I have opted IN for organ donation. From my probate experience - if you don't want jewellery to go up the crem chimney or into the ground make sure the family, or whoever, knows to tell the undertaker before it's too late..... Yep, if things can go wrong.... And from a will I saw years ago: "I want to be sewn into my old kit bag and burned": well, that's clear enough, then! Last cremation I went to, standing room only, ended with "Always look on the bright side of life", and, of course, people left singing it quietly to themselves

Thank You for asking! I've figured this one out. I've hoarded quite some quantity of single malts in my liquor cabinet. I want to be bathed in it, want all my friends to come and get sozzled, happy, boisterous and hungry. And off they can cart me to the crematorium. No crying and wringing of hands and phoney speeches required. Hey! I'm just going across and "Ill be BACK"!!

I mentioned earlier choosing musc for the event so if you are stuck this may be of interest to you. metro.co.uk/news/623157-reve... Incidentally, I hasten to add that my choices are most definitely on this list.

I'm an organ donor too. they are most welcome to use all my spare parts to help other humans when i don't need them anymore.

Arrrgggghhhhh! Standby, standby. Obviously in my previous answer I meant to say my musical choices are NOT, most emphatically NOT on that list.

I do want the military style funeral with the color guard, the flag and the works.

My friends all expect me to be burned in a Viking ship set to sea. They also expect a full on bashment bacchanal with Reggae blasting through the night, - and next day........ ....what is left anyway after the donations, which probably will not be that many, as I am working on destroying them all myself........ ....no religious service of any kind. That is well understood by all..... I will, like all things, rejoin Mother Earth, whether on land or sea....it does not matter. It was a good run and I crammed a lot of living into it. Not a whole lot of things left on the ol' bucket list, - except, - and this may seem a bit smaltzy, but I hope to make one Euro Meet with fellow VTers in the near future. Just when I thought there was nothing left in the world that would surprise me, - you lot showed up!! There will be one particular musical number played at some point. It is called Redemption Song by Robert Nesta Marley. youtube.com/watch?v=OFGgbT_V...

Erik, I'll make you a promise. If we both make a Euromeet and I can blag a guitar somewhere, I'll do Redemption Song for you, although with you being a Marley fan I'm not sure whether that is a promise or a threat!

Fergy mi fren. That is the best offer I've had all year! Now I HAVE to make a Euro Meet! It is already promising to be a helluva party compadre. I guess I should tell ya, that hearing your rendition of Redemption Song, is now permanently on my bucket list! Much respek mi bredren.....d:o)

Erik,it is so good to have you back.. hugs D ((()))

Thanks sweetie....d:o) I drop in and out as I can. I have been busy.

Yes Erik. Come to Romania next year. It's one of my favorite countries in europe with lot's of lovely little hole in the wall bars where we can rock the joint till the wee hours in the morning.

Sounds like a potential blast Claus. Closing down bars is something we both do very well. Manhattan Beach and Hermosa Beach still have not recovered from our last jaunt.........d:o)

We need to get Claus, Erik, Ed and I together at a few bars. (Maybe G too)

Oh dear, oh dear I can see this all going horribly wrong. I'm not sure ho9w many bars I have closed but I know I have certainly opened a few, normally before official opening time. Well, I do get thirsty now and again.