Crikey!!!! if I was allowed to swear on VT then I 'bl@@dy well would' After an exhausting day getting my very ill husband up,showered,dressed and fed a few mouthfuls of soup getting him into the car and to the clinic to have a blood transfusion where I sat with him for nearly 5 hours then getting him back home and settled in his arm chair where he immediatley fell into a deep sleep. Even all the phone calls and delivery of home oxygen etc did not disturb him. Well!! I decided to have some 'me time' so cooked myself some chicken and steamed vegies and while they were cooking I checked into VT and told myself I would come back after my meal and 'me time'. I poured myself a 1/2 glass of merlot,dished up my meal sat down to eat and relax and somehow my glass of red went smashing onto the tiled floor I had only mopped yesterday.How on earth does one small glass shatter into so many fragments and flys everywhere across all corners of the room? and how does a 1/2 glass of red wine splatter all over my meal and all sundry including myself (of course I happen to be wearing white pants}it went up the wall,over the curtains,table,chairs etc. By the time I cleaned it all up sobbed like a small child,I am now so worn out I have lost my appetite and don't even feel like pouring another glass of wine or cooking another meal. I reckon it must be Murphy's law. What a day!!
Hi D In the face of extreme provacation, you are absolutely allowed to use technical terms - just make sure that there are a couple of control characters in there to befuddle the VT censor! So sorry to hear that you're having a grim time: so beaming you hugs and sympathetic thoughts. Love to you and Rex Cathy
My Goodness Dorrise fancy wasting all that good tucker..bet it was a good glass too. So did you gather up the pieces in crumpled damp old newspaper? And Darling Rex....I bet he slept right through it all! Now no more of that the next time you prepare a feast for yourself! We will all be watching.
Chin up Dorrise . Who needs wine anyway, when you have VT :-)) Yeah the glass is a nuisance to clean up not to mention the red stuff. And that sobbing is a release. Now get comfy and try to relax if that's at all possible. Trust Rex is sleeping and restful. Maybe a hot chocolate is in order :-) You're a star my friend, look after yourself as well x
awwww seems it was the last straw in a very difficult day, Dorrise. Is there any way you can get some home help to assist you with Rex? trying to do it all on your own is very wearing. I did that with my mum and then my dad and, fit as I was, it was very draining. Getting Dad in and out of the shower by myself was a nightmare and I already had plenty of practice when I was nursing. Is there a charity or some service you can call? You definitely need some *me* time, that is for sure. I just wish I was a bit closer so that I could help :((
Thanks Cathy, I can swear like an old fisherman's wife when things get bad haha. It's been a tough day so thanks for caring... D xx
Marg,I sure used wet crumbled up newspaper,it's the best thing for getting all those splinters of glass up. Yep!!!my dinner was spoilt and Rex slept all through it. I have just finished a strong black coffee which has perked me up a bit. Thanks mate, Dorrise xx
Pam,Rex was in such a deep sleep nothing would have woken him not even my loud sobbing. He woke up as soon as I laid down on the couch not long ago and as soon as I got up to tend to him he fell asleep!!! I am making a bed downstairs tonight because no way can I cope getting him upstairs. VT is a wonderful place for me to come and share whatever but I still would have liked my glass of red wine.(Have not had one for quite awhile) wine I mean!! Me a star, how kind you are. Hugs Dorrise (()))
You're doing an amazing job caring for your husband Dorisse but it must be absolutely exhausting.I hope that you have some help and someone to look after you a little , now and then. I think you should have another glass of wine - a large one !
Darling Sue,thanks so much mate..yes!home care is on the way and I will have the blue nurses come in to shower and shave him.A hospital bed will be put downstairs and I have all the loo seats etc to make my job easier. We have palliative care team coming to visit twice a week and they will arrange respite for me.They have a 12 bed hospice 25klm from Cairns and I know Rex will be well looked after and it is a really nice facility. It has just been a long traumatic day for me and I am accepting all help that is available.The fold up wheelchair will be delivered tomorrow and that will make a big difference for me..I have warned Rex that I will take him for a spin and do a few donuts/wheelies haha. Thanks dear Sue,big hugs (((()))) Dorrise
Thanks Katherine,I love the sound of that large glass and my darling man deserves to be looked after...and not just by me,I only have two hands lol. (((()))) Dorrise
Hi, I understand how a large red is desired now & then, but I urge you to use a plastic glass/cup; that way can't prevent spillages, but at least no loads of sharp & dangerous fragments to pick up!
Oh sweet Dorrise... you are doing a wonderful job mate. I bet you cried some more when you read the lovely words of comfort from your friends here on vt. I know I did when I went through the same thing with my mum. And it is a good thing too having 'me time'....and don't you ever feel bad about that. It is a source of re-juvination so that you have the strength to carry on. The palliative care people are so good these days. They are a great source of help and comfort. Lean on them mate. Hugs to you and a big kiss for Rexy.
Hi Dorrise, I'm getting my 'boxing' gloves ready to have a 'fight' with Ms 'Murphy' to break her Law, big big HUGS is on the way to you :D I think you need a box of chocolates which work magic, Turn Tears to Laughter. My cousin sister who studied BioChem advised us to take some chocolates if we were really STRESS once. It is true: livescience.com/7974-chocola...
Jeez lady what a day!...Im tired just thinking about it...I broke my favorite mug too...wonder if we sent things crashing at the same time on opposite sides of the world?...but since all the tea went up the side of my massive fridge at least that got a clean too....Im looking for the bright side here....
The magnetic field of STRESS just get larger across the oceans from the North to Down Under.
My friend you are doing an amazing job looking after Rex and I am so glad to hear you are getting help and some respite care. So sorry about your meal and your wine. Prepare it all again tonight and it will taste twice as good. As you can tell, we are all 100% behind you and we care very much. As Pam said, you are a star.....I learned that expression from a South African and it describes you perfectly. Diane
If you feel really unsteady D, you could always try and put the wine in a sippy cup ... unlikely to enhance your street cred, but helluva good for keeping precious liquids contained! :)
Haha Cathy. I just had a picture of that.
We all have days like that from time to time. The important thing is that tomorrow will be better.
View, Good idea about the plastic cup--I found more glass fragments this morning whilst vacuuming and moping again. Thanks. Ann, you bet I cried again after reading the wonderful support from my vt mates.I have just given Rexy a big kiss from you and he liked it...nothing wrong with him haha. He asked me how my flight was when he woke up this morning,he goes off into noddyland and rambles these days. Abbey, those boxing gloves sound great,and chocolates are my best friend (after a glass of red wine) thanks Abbey.((())) lots of hugs.
Kirsty, we sure are 'smashing friends' everything got a good going over so I suppose like your fridge..that's the bright side. xxx Dorrise. IP, thanks so much for your support. D Diane,thanks heaps buddy, I am heating up a slow cooked meal I froze last week for tonights dinner. I have never thought of myself as a *star* but I am sure not going to argue with you or Pam 'No Way!!!!!
Cathy, I can just see me with one of those 'sippy cups' better give me the wheelchair,bib and all the other aids to really make an impression. As a retired drug & alcohol therapist I knew many clients who tried to hide their 'grog' in sport bottles,milk cartons or anything else haha.D xx Iain,thanks mate---good to hear from you and hope you and your son are doing well! Cheers Dorrise
Dear Dorrise...If I lived near you, I'd be on your doorstep now and try to give you whatever help I could! Do ask for a little help sometimes, won't you? x
Mim, how kind you are...I feel quite humble. Yes,I am getting help from palliative care and a few friends who come and keep Rex company while I slip out and do some shopping and tend to business matters. I can also have weekly respite so I can go out for a coffee or just a walk somewhere. Thanks darling lady. Dorrise xxx
Dorrise, the flight Rex meant was the airborne wineglass :-))
Haha Pam!!! he is coming out with some funny and very mixed up words/speech these days,could be the drugs he is on. He got concerned yesterday about the blood transfusion,he wanted to know if it was blokes blood....he refused to have any female blood pumped into him. I wonder what he was thinking!!!! His Dr reassured him it was a blokes blood donation....giving me a wink and a nod as he desperatley searched for a good vein,after 5 attempts he found one. Anyway! it just could have been a flying wine glass lol. D (())
When a mind plays games, there is always a tiny factor that is real. I bet he was just concerned about the difference between m and f. And ofcourse there is the dysphasia/aphasia - the version when they choose the wrong word. That can be frustrating for the person speaking, and mildly funny all the same. I'm glad Rex is speaking, whatever he says :-))
Thanks Pam,nice to have a friend across the ditch. I took him for a ride in his wheelchair today and he nodded off and could'nt remember but at least I can take him for a stroll,shopping,going for a coffee or a beer is useless because it takes him hours to drink anything these days. The wheelchair will make my days much much easier as I won't be so housebound. He was chatting about a Walt not long ago I assume it is Walt Disney because we don't know any Walt's anyway! he and Walt were boating up the Swan River. He still knows me,thank goodness. Dorrise ((()))
Great to hear you are mobile. Wheelchairs are great! And I hope Rex and Walt had a fun time :-) Yes it makes all the difference if you knows who you are. Good stuff xx
Oh and be careful! Those wheelchairs can "bite"!! I lost a bit of skin from folding them up. I tell ya, that brings tears to your eyes for sure :-))